So, You Have a Foreign Partner. Now What?

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You've decided to bridge the cultural gap between your home country and your host nation.  What better way to dive in the deep end than by mingling with the "Natives".  In spite of every protest, you end up fancying someone (despite language barriers).  They think you're cute too!  You've gone out on a few dates, and things seem on the up-and-up.  Now what?

Here are a few tips that "TheExpatGirl" has gathered from various "sources" to help you should you find yourself questioning whether you truly understand your new mate.

1.  Be an Understander, Not a Judger.
Sure, he may lick the plate after every meal.  She may have switched her stillettos and skirts for sweats and rubber sandals.  Instead of judging about these things, understand the reasoning behind it.  Maybe in his culture, leaving an ounce of food behind is a sign of wastefulness and disrespect.  Maybe, for her, she feels comfortable and unguarded enough to show you that she doesn't need to hide behind the costume of Sexy Secretary .  These idiosyncrasies are workable, and global issues.  If she starts pooping with the door open, then let the fighting begin!

2.  You're Making Me Meet Who!?
Yes, la familia.  They are super excited about this burning love that they've decided that Mutter, Vater, Oma, Opa and every 3rd cousin must be introduced to you. You don't speak German? Don't worry.  You'll be fine.  The trick to meeting the family for the first time (and not throw up in the process) is smile and nod.  If you're blessed, you'll be sitting around the dinner table discussing what your future children look like (and of course, you not understanding a single word being spoken).  At worst, the conversation will take a sharp right and that kid will have a hairy back and chin wart.  Tweezers anyone?

3.  Egg-észségetekre!
It really shouldn't be a problem if your mate starts the day off with 100 proof.  At least they aspire to be the top at something--even if it is top shelf.  Seriously, in western cultures, we consider it to be a social faux pas to begin imbibing before noon.  This is not the case in some countries.  Having a drink with a friend, or being offered a drink by a colleague or neighbor is a sign of camaraderie and respect.  Keeping an open mind about the traditions and daily habits of the country that you are in will save you headache, heartache, and money on therapy sessions.

4.  No, I'm not Sarcastic, Ever!
In any relationship, communication is key.  Having the ability to decipher sarcasm and seriousness is hard enough with a partner from your own country.  Adding accents and inflections can be the cause of many giant blowouts--unless you've learned that the stone cold face and repetitive oscillations in your bae's voice is their norm.  If not, you have issues.  Then, and only then, is it recommended to pull the "I'm a(n) (American/Brit/fill in the blank) card.  We invented sarcasm."

5.  Blistery Mystery.
The novelty of having your first foreign mate has worn off.  So has the mystery.  Again, this is a typical issue with couples worldwide.  Should you decide to keep on with said relationship, step your game up.  Don't show all of your cards just yet.  Get a hobby, change your style a bit...mystery = attraction.  If not, cut your losses quickly and head out to the city center and enjoy your freedom.

This is a giant world in which we live.  How many people can you connect with in this lifetime?